Marriage
January 12, 2010
I’m getting married. July 18th, 2010.
to Reid Lawrence Wilkes
I will then no longer be “MissyBird” but rather Melissa Brook Wilkes. It’s so odd that a name can define me – or rather, that i feel it can define me.
I will no longer be part of my family in the same way that I am now, defined by name — in the phonebook, on Facebook, on the world wide web, we are all in the same family.
I’m frustrated that society is patriarchal and limits women to either keep their identity or “join” their husband officially.
And, as a man, it’s not really acceptable to add on something that says “I’m also joining someone and creating something new with her”
if the name change is all about merging of 2 people and creating a NEW family together, why isn’t it that there’s a NEW name that is created btwn the two?
